Don’t Ask Me to Stay the Same

(Or Why ‘Take Me As I Am’ Is a Lie We Tell Ourselves)

“Take me as I am.”
It sounds like self-love.
It sounds empowered.
But let’s be honest - it’s often a wall. A defense. A plea not to be challenged.

I love people. I love you.
But don’t ask me to take you as you are, if that means you refuse to evolve.

Because life is change.
The soul is wired for growth. And love - real love - demands transformation.

Do I want you to change?
Yes.
I want you to outgrow your victim stories.
I want you to notice the patterns that hurt others and choose better.
I want you to become more loving, more present, more alive - again and again.

I don’t want perfection.
I want commitment.
To the path.
To accountability.
To the sacred labor of self-awareness and soul evolution.

When someone says, “This is just how I am,”
what they’re really saying is, “I don’t want to look at myself.”

But I want a partner who will look.
Who will feel.
Who will say:

“Yes, this is where I’m stuck - and I’m willing to grow.”

“Yes, I made a mistake - and I’ll learn from it.”

“Yes, I’m human - but I refuse to weaponize that against you.”

Please, don’t ask me to accept you as if you are beyond change.
Tell me instead:

“I will meet you in the fire.
I will do the work.
I will keep becoming the man or woman my soul came here to be.”

 Let’s stop using self-acceptance as a shield from accountability.
And let’s start loving each other enough to change - beautifully, fiercely, and forever.