Narcissistic Personal Coaching Session: One Hour, In-Person, Tucson, AZ. Men & Women

Empowerment and Embodiment for an Extraordinary Life

This will not be your average narcissistic talk zone where we stick the narcissist in the center, leaving the victim to drudge through the trenches to heal and recover.  This healing is multilayered.

Narcissistic exposure affects multiple levels. It creates emotional, mental, spiritual, financial hardship and leaves wounds often so devastating that it can take years to recover.

This session is designed to clarify and heal. We will talk about how you are affected in your everyday life. We will break down strategies and use tools for your healing process.  Support and safety of this session is paramount to healing and recovery.  Being seen, supported, witnessed and understood is how you and I will hold the space.

You will elevate your energetic field with energy medicine, meditate to expand our consciousness and create a better way of loving yourself. This will be an opportunity to approve, acknowledge and validate your experiences.

The Healing Begins

Getting clear about what this has brought up in you, can be emotional and intense. When we know we aren’t alone, we aren’t crazy and we can heal, we open to the possibility that we will come out of this better than ever.

What’s most important is that you become strong and confident enough in yourself to connect with partners who truly love you. For that we will progressively move through tools that bring awareness such as shadow and mirror work. We will use somatic movement to release the charge that has settled in your body. We will take a look at the most effective ways to bring love and radiance in your life now, healing those traumas and wounds forevermore.

You are the center of this healing, and it is you that will reclaim your power, your integrity and your vision for life on your terms.

The only thing you need is to be committed to, is you.

Wherever love was not present, you will provide it now.

Fear of abandonment is the baseline for why we didn’t move on when we saw the first flag.

Here’s why you didn’t move. There was something you still needed to see, to understand. Your way out of this was an inside job and you’ve known that all along. You just have had no clear way of knowing how to shift what needed healing?

What’s more, the only thing society has focused on is the traits of the narcissist and the victimization of the partner who in a traditional setting will need a lot of therapy.

Our focus needs to be on healing and knowing that it’s possible for anyone who wants it.

If you are an empath, you vibrate high in compassion, love and awareness, you are kryptonite to a narcissist. You are also everything the narcissist has ever wanted because you have that brilliant light, a light they can’t ignite within themselves.

Bright light makes a shadow thicker, denser. It doesn’t make it go away. That means that the more you shine, the happier you are, the more it angers a narcissist.

Allow me to explain.

Let’s take a look at what narcissists long for. Past their control, manipulation and gaslighting, what are they showing us?

They are looking for:

• Attention

• Recognition

• Validation

• Confidence

• Acknowledgement

• Awareness

• Love

• Grace

• Healing

• Peace

• Trust and Surrender

How does this pertain to you?

Let’s take a trip back in time and explore our first relationships and how we relate to ourselves and others.  Beginning with the most important relationship of all.  YOU.

These are the aspects that we will strengthen:

• Healing through understanding.

• Observation of how we got here.

• Recognizing and healing trauma from our first relationships.

We will be going beyond the therapy model of doing it all in your head, as memories and emotions are stored in the body, the tissues, organs and cells.

We will use an integration of tools like Energy Medicine, Shadow Work, Embodiment Practices, Meditations, Somatic Movement, Passion Practices, and Love Bombing Yourself!

We are going to acknowledge and approve of your rage, anger, grief and sorrow and then we are going to transform it all into joy, release, freedom, confidence, power and integrity.

As long as we focus on the problems, we ruminate and stay stuck. Focusing on the issues at hand can be wonderful and relevant to knowing what you’re dealing with. We need to go past that, and begin to heal the wounds created by not giving ourselves what we need.

Traditional practices have been ingrained in therapists to harp on the narcissist and make them the center of attention. That is still feeding the dark energy.

To heal and never attract another narcissist in your life will mean strengthening the very parts in you that were needed in your partner.

The narcissist has been a projection, a mirror of your needing to take much better care of you.

When we stop being codependent or people pleasing, we learn to draw boundaries, bring desire, passion and pleasure into our life every day. Only then are we emotionally, mentally and spiritually full. We make no decisions out of lack of anything. That changes what we are willing to tolerate.

When we are strong in our confidence, understand our purpose, and how to move in accordance to our needs, we see flags and then leave with our integrity intact. This doesn’t mean we are cruel or rude. 

Love and compassion are part of the process. You are not filling your cup with vengeance, but rather with love and care for yourself that is vast and abundant.

The Shock

In the beginning we are quite confused and questioning everything. Most of us can’t believe what happened. We also may feel guilty for staying too long, having resentment, anger and grief for time lost.

Meditation is key. Getting quiet and learning how to breathe again is essential.  We will explore our understanding of where love became unsafe for you.

Take mental inventory through observation.

We will go over these Relationship Styles:

• Secure Attachment vs Secure Functioning

• Anxious Avoidance

• Anxious Ambivalent

• Trauma Bonding

• Co-dependency

We will explore how overly controlling, invasive, psychologically numb, disassociated, and disconnected parents or caregivers paved the way for confusion and distrust in love.

Being closed off due to unhealed pain creates resentment, and that’s a tool for unhealthy reactions.  This can lead us to subconsciously attach to others that will provide us with similar circumstances that manifest what we were accustomed to in childhood.

We will be breaking that cycle for good.

We will get to the heart of your fears of abandonment and of not being loved, by using tools, and having the necessary support to fill your cup and leave you full and satiated!

Moving through the world truly happy, transforms our choices into our healthiest ideal.

You are signing up for an individual session tailored to your specific needs. There are also group classes available. Group classes allow you to interact with others going through the same process.

Take back your power, your confidence, your dreams and visions. Take back your passion, your desire, your opportunity for growth and excellence. You can rewrite this chapter of your life. It just takes the first step.

I’ll see you there!

What to Bring

Bring a mat or cushion to sit on.

Wear comfortable clothing as you will be moving your body, sitting and lying for meditation and healing practices.

You may want to bring a journal and water to drink.

Love and Light,

Phaedra