The Orgasmic Yoni
Men and women orgasm differently. We both feel pleasure, but the way women climax is very unique.
Let’s take a journey into the Arousal of Woman.
Yoni is a Sanskrit word meaning ‘Source’, literally God/Goddess itself. That is true Divinity.
A question for my ladies.
Do we know what pleasure looks like? How about desire?
Who taught us about women’s anatomy and pleasure?
Honestly, most of us have learned from some pretty unreliable sources like porn. We know full well we are watching entertainers, even performers in the cam modeling world, and we still think it’s real.
As a woman who has worked in the sex industry for 30 years, I can tell you the first requirement for this field of work is not how authentic your orgasms are. The only question is… How well can you fake it? That’s a real discussion during the coaching of cam models.
Men are hoping to go anywhere to be educated, and they think women are giving them a fair deal. Women are not providing them with that. We are discouraged from taking too long, or making weird sounds or strange faces, all of which are deeply accepted in the world of reality.
As women, we are learning how to navigate our sexual desires and ecstasy by the outline of a man’s anatomy. Let me explain.
A woman’s sensations are unique.
A woman has 8,000 nerve endings just on the protruding part of her clitoris. Her clitoris, however, extends to her outer labia and deep inside the network of nerves within. Touching her to activate her highest potential looks different from what we’ve been exposed to.
A man holds 4,000 nerve endings on the head of his cock, not including the other sensations of his shaft, testicles and extension beneath them. His deeper orgasms also reside through the heart, though no one is telling him that. His second chakra orgasms will drain his life force if he isn’t aware of how to breathe and direct his energy and intention.
I coach these courses for men:
• EMO (Extended Massive Orgasm) for Him
It is only fair that men know exactly what their Linga/Cock is and how to use this power in its full capacity. I teach men how to supercharge orgasms, build endurance, stamina, strengthen and heal with his Majestic Wand, his Cock.
The Lucky Girl Blowjob has the added benefit as the woman gets the healing, the penetration of desire and intent into action, her voice, her opening and her trust in life. This workshop bonds partners in this ancient Magick practice.
“Women have an interconnected network of structures that act in concert to choreograph arousal and orgasm.” – Sheri Winston, Women’s Anatomy and Arousal
I love what Sheri Winston has to say on this. We are not just our genitals. The pathway to get us really high in our ecstasy with rolling orgasms that last for hours. Some orgasms come with colors that have spiked during this altered state. Others transcend trauma and heal by way of an awakened and activated Linga.
Let’s start by understanding the element of women. Water. Flowing, moving, emotional, slow to build, and long-lasting once you get her moving.
Now, let’s look at the element of men. Fire. Charging, heated, full of energy, driven, penetrating, quick to ignite. He can die out quickly if he uses all his fuel without pacing himself and training his own orgasms.
Her arousal starts with a touch, an image, a whisper, a feather stroke, or a firm grip, moving and flowing in a dance upon her skin.
Perhaps the most missed place for this awareness is what happens in her consciousness. Her openness and trust in you will have a direct impact on her ability to lubricate, soften, and climax.
Note, her orgasms can be wave-like, explosive, and multiple. They can move through your body, too. Yoni is Source, and you are her igniter.
Orgasm is less possible when our inner tanks are empty. I spend a lot of time coaching women on how to bring passion and desire into their lives and live by it. It is so easy to fall into the trap of never having time for joy or fun. We create what we want to experience. And so it makes sense that unfulfilled women would be the highest at risk of depression, heart disease, cancer, exhaustion, rage, resentment, and doubt in life. You cannot give what you don’t have yourself.
What we have seen as a consequence of treating Yoni like Linga has been increased pain in women, atrophy, and numbness. Unhealed, these places can manifest cancer, infections, overall depression, and exhaustion in life. Did I mention rage? Raging women need release.
Yoni is the partner of Linga, Lord Shiva. Pussy is the partner to Cock. Neither is better nor worse. It is only a matter of preference.
Arousal of a woman begins with acknowledgement and approval of her pussy. All of it. Shape, color, expression, and scent. The beginning stage of arousal happens with gestures and intent that are heart-centered and true. In other words, the most vivacious, life-changing orgasms start in the pathway of the heart.
Got resistance with the partner who is intimate with you, it follows you into the bedroom. It is a misconception to believe you can fuck away a problem. Sex creates a mind-altering experience, and you are pumping very lush feel-good hormones and chemicals through your body, but I can reassure you that it will not resolve what needs responsibility and attention.
Got resistance with yourself, you guessed it. These actually sit in your Yoni as a storehouse of emotion. What is painful sex? It is fearful sex. Sex that has attachments of hurt and sadness. It has created tension inside the Yoni, throat and anus. For women, being allowed to feel in a safe container and be fully supported without being fixed is a very hot turn-on.
Love, Intimacy, and Spiritual Growth come down to only two things. TRUST AND SURRENDER. For men, knowing that her arousal is all-encompassing and that he can dramatically turn her on with a stare from across the room means he has done the heart-centered work to gain her trust.
Velvet and Taking Touch are two techniques I teach in my workshops. They are first learned by her, as I find the most important thing a woman can do is pleasure herself and bring passion into her life. It is ridiculous to believe that if a woman gives herself pleasure, she will suddenly have no need for anyone else. Women need lots and lots of pleasure. The more they get, the more they can give. That’s how it works.
Orgasm for women is not a one-and-done. Trying to edge your female partner like a man is also a mistake. You build too much pressure behind the value. It will turn inward and inflame her in agitation and frustration. Do her a favor and don’t short her any orgasms. She is best when happy and satisfied.
I have created several spaces for women to learn about their anatomy, how to touch, appreciate, heal, and listen to their Yoni.
• Strengthening, EMO for Her (Extended Massive Orgasm with De-armoring trauma)
• Pleasure and Embodiment Coaching
To explore my trainings go to: https://www.phaedrajadestar.com/shop/all-trainings
Not sure where to start? Go to: https://www.phaedrajadestar.com/start-here
Let’s clear another misconception for Yoni's sake.
Wetness is not an indicator of readiness. Wetness is unique to every girl. Even in her increase, the Yoni will give very clear clues when it's time to enter and how to enter.
About as much time as it takes to boil an egg is the same amount of time it takes to get her in her heightened state of arousal. That being said, this is not necessarily 8 minutes of pussy stroking. It will be multiple components combined. Play her entire being with love and care, and she will sing in pitches and chords that speak directly to your Linga.
Don’t say I can do it in 5 or 3 minutes. It’s not a competition and pussy has had a lifetime of over-rides. That means doing things before she is truly ready because of expectation or fear of hurting her partner’s feelings. This is not that. Eight minutes. You can give her that.
Mornings can be the toughest to gauge because we are still groggy from sleep. Set your timer gents, and stick to it. Finger does not go in until the alarm goes off! The Yoni will practically suck you in when she’s ready. You will feel her ‘invite’. That’s very important.
When you touch her consciously, you awaken her Magick. When you disassociate, override, abuse, use, disapprove of pussy, life will demonstrate all of that and will include the people around you.
Women are the radiance that lights the hearts of men. When women are happy, full of light, and live in their integrity as women, the world shifts. When the world shifts the vision of life alters and so does humanity.
I believe that happy women make happy men and happy men and women create happy children. Happy children are the future and staying true to one’s heart awakens Paradise on Earth.
Love and Light,
Phaedra Star
